By Joyce Oglesby
Q: “Blended families are hard, but mine seems more difficult than others. My husband’s ex is constantly unloading her kids on me when it’s her weekend. It might be more tolerable if he were around to enjoy his own kids, but he gets lost and I have to babysit. I don’t want to cause trouble, but when my kids visit their father, I’m always stuck with his children and never get a break. How can I make my husband see they’re his responsibility more than mine?”
Poor kids. They always get caught in the middle. Please understand it’s not the child’s fault when adults make poor decisions. Perhaps you should begin with the ex, since your husband seems to be neglecting many responsibilities. If he won’t draw boundaries, the stick is left in your hand. Tell her sorry, you’re unavailable. And a word to the wise: Consider long and hard before you have children with him. He might not be the father any kid deserves.
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